WHY ARE YOUNG PEOPLE ABUSING ONE ANOTHER … AND CONSENTING TO ABUSE?
By LEN ANTHONY || A few weeks ago I wrote an article regarding out-of-control fraternities. Meanwhile an investigation into the suspicious death of a Clemson fraternity member is ongoing. More recently, we learned that hazing is not reserved for college fraternities – as senior members of a New Jersey high school football team stand accused of sexually assaulting junior members of the team.
This behavior begs two questions: First, why are young men so desirous to abuse other young men? Secondly, why do young men allow themselves to be abused? I have no answers. I hope some FITSNews readers do.
Regarding the first question, there have always been bullies. And I am fairly confident the cure is for someone to beat the crap out of them. (I suspect a psychiatrist would disagree with me but remember the episode of The Andy Griffith Show in which the bully was taking Opie’s lunch money? Sheriff Taylor told Opie to stand up for himself – and he did. I go with Sheriff Taylor).
The second question is more bizarre. I don’t think anyone enjoys being a victim. So, the fraternity pledges and the junior high school football players are for some reason so desperate to be a part of these organizations they will voluntarily endure abuse and humiliation.
A fraternity is nothing more than a social club a member pays to join – big deal. Being a member of a high school football team carries some testosterone based notoriety. But it is hard to present yourself as a tough guy when you just let another man shove his finger up your anus, and – if the allegations are true – then place that finger in your mouth. Plus, there isn’t much manliness in sticking your finger in some other man’s anus.
Of course, there isn’t much manliness in a fraternity pledge consenting to being abused and humiliated. So, I just don’t get it.
As usual I fall back to the wisdom of John Wayne. In his last movie, The Shootist, he said: “I won’t be wronged. I won’t be insulted. I won’t be laid a-hand on. I don’t do these things to other people, and I require the same from them.”
Seems like a good rule to live by, doesn’t it?
Len Anthony spent thirty years as in-house counsel for a public utility. He’s now semi-retired living in North Myrtle Beach, S.C. Wanna sound off on FITS? Submit your letter to the editor or opinion column HERE.