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Jenny Sanford is Still in Charge




liz gunnBy Liz Gunn || Anyone paying attention when Mark Sanford was Governor of South Carolina probably had a good idea that it was Mrs. Sanford who ran the show. Rumors were rampant of her barking orders at him in his office, of her berating him publicly and so on. For those of us living in Columbia at the time especially, I feel like this was common knowledge.

With the latest break in the “Sanford Saga”, it appears Jenny Sanford is still completely in charge. She has managed what many a scorned woman could only dream of. She has single-handedly, perhaps with the assist from her legal team, put an end to his relationship with María Belén Chapur, the woman he left her for.

Mark Sanford and his never ending shenanigans have continued to be an embarrassment to this state. As Governor he constantly made national headlines for annoying publicity stunts (“pork projects” anyone?) and was nearly impeached in 2009. Anyone who voted for him for Congress should be ashamed. Now, his on-going custody battle with ex-wife Jenny has created a whole new chapter of embarrassment.

I have to say, I am impressed with Jenny’s strategic, unwavering manipulation of the man she once called her husband. I think most women, even if quietly, do cheer for the woman who got left behind; especially in such a public, humiliating way. She is winning this divorce, in my opinion.

What gives me pause is that she is hurting her four children in the process. When you mistreat your spouse, current or former, it has a ripple effect on your children. In this case, the results of both of their actions are not just hurting their children, they are directly tied to them.

Mark Sanford’s Facebook status claims that he ended his relationship due to a nasty, ongoing custody battle with his bitter ex-wife. I have to note here that according to The Washington Post, his rambling on Facebook is longer than his entire speech output on the floor of the US Congress for 2014. I can’t say that I don’t think Mark Sanford deserves the abuse he’s getting from his ex-wife after what he put her through, but I certainly don’t believe his children deserve to be dragged through it as well.

It’s bad enough when the entire country finds out via televised press conference that your father wasn’t exactly hiking in Appalachia like his staffers said (although the metaphorical comparisons to what he WAS doing are limitless.) It’s bad enough when your mom goes to great lengths to make your father miserable by desperately trying to ruin not only his career but his love life, as well. But when your father takes to Facebook to strangely announce the end of his engagement and blames your mother for it outright? Ouch.

I am so embarrassed for their family and I’ve grown tired of this story. I’m not really sure why I, or anyone else, should care anymore. For the sake of your children, Mark and Jenny Sanford, just shut up. It’s the least you can do for them and for the rest of us.

Liz Gunn is a wife, mom, author, businesswoman, travel enthusiast, food snob, fashionista, lover of great wine and the No. 1 Gamecock football fan … ever. A graduate of the University of South Carolina, she lives in Columbia, S.C. with her husband and daughter.