Mia McLeod: The Color Of Civility

“I’M NOT TRYING TO CATCH FLIES …” || By MIA McLEOD ||  Just because I’m candid doesn’t mean I’m confrontational. Leadership, like candor, requires courage.  And whether you’re black, white, brown … male or female … democrat or republican … real leaders don’t hide from real issues. Race is a…


|| By MIA McLEOD ||  Just because I’m candid doesn’t mean I’m confrontational.

Leadership, like candor, requires courage.  And whether you’re black, white, brown … male or female … democrat or republican … real leaders don’t hide from real issues.

Race is a real issue in South Carolina.

From the senseless murders of Walter Scott and unarmed black men across this nation, to the rezoning and redistricting plans that re-segregate our schools, marginalize our voices, disenfranchise our voters and disadvantage our citizens – those in leadership positions have a duty to speak up.  And speak up, they do.

“You can catch more flies with honey…”

“Are you an angry black woman?”

“Let’s restore some civility to this ‘racial rancor’ in Richland Two.”

“Why are you fighting for more diversity in your district? Don’t you know that majority black districts are safer (for black incumbents)?”

And while your elected “leaders” are busy critiquing my tone and delivery, guess what they’re doing – nothing.

Some black leaders question my “blackness” because I refuse to blindly support the actions of other blacks, just because they’re black.  Some white leaders question my “civility” because they’d rather not deal with uncomfortable issues like race and racism, but my candor won’t allow them to continue to hide.

In South Carolina, the adversity of diversity is real.  As a freshman lawmaker in 2011, I chose to fight the Republican Party’s redistricting plan for my district because it deliberately and needlessly diminished the diversity in it.

In 2012, I challenged “the system” again, as well as a newer breed of Old Guard politicians … this time, by demanding accountability and transparency from our Richland County Legislative Delegation and Elections Commission (the majority of whom are black and democrat) after the disenfranchisement of thousands of Richland County voters.

In 2013, I exposed Richland School District Two after District officials purposely “packed” certain schools with black students during its rezoning process, while deliberately diverting its resources, funding and facility upgrades to “non-packed” schools, creating “the haves and have-nots” within the District.

In 2014, I fought Richland Two again for making race an issue in the school board election by launching a race-based smear campaign against a black school board candidate who instantly went from being the District’s best “Ambassador” to its worst “Agitator” the day she filed to run for the board seat she now holds.

Here’s the deal.  I don’t “go along to get along.”  If that’s their definition of civility, I won’t ever be “civil.”  Who cares what color, gender or party these good ole boys and gals are.

So when I challenge Richland Two’s Superintendent and some school board members, it’s not because she’s white or he’s black.  It’s because their individual and collective actions are self-serving, regressive and wrong for our students, parents and communities.

Yes, I’m black, but I don’t speak for or agree with every black person.  I’m a woman too, but that doesn’t mean I support every woman who’s in office or aspires to be.

Obviously, some disagree – sand that’s probably how we got Nikki Haley … twice.

Corruption and collusion are not confined to one race, gender or political prototype.  So, when I call others out for their self-serving ways … or expose those who denounce “the system” as they secretly participate in it and benefit from it … what does my race (or theirs) have to do with that?

One thing’s for sure … I’m not trying to “catch flies.”  Neither are the people I represent.  And to “restore some civility” mistakenly implies that the use of my voice to articulate my truth somehow contributes to its loss.

And while I whole-heartedly believe in diversity and choose to celebrate the positive differences, contributions and uniqueness of others, nobody said that the path to greatness would be homogeneous or easy.

We can be a great county … a great state … a great nation. Our diverse perspectives and contributions are key to a more competitive, more inclusive and ultimately, more productive South Carolina.

Questioning my civility because you don’t appreciate my candor is one thing.  Using race to “discolor” and discredit the authenticity of my perspective is another.

So, contrary to what some believe, I’m not “ an angry black woman.”

Truth is …“I’m mad as hell!” And if you knew what these good ole boys and gals were really about, you would be too.

How’s that for civility …

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Squishy123 May 5, 2015 at 6:47 pm

You’ll catch even more flies with bullshit than honey which explains why there seems to be a fly infestation around the State House… and it’s not just around Leatherman’s pants.

What do they teach in these black churches? They seem to be the safety net for every never ending crisis in the black community.

He's right May 6, 2015 at 12:11 am

I’m black and I agree. These black church pastors are full of shit, bought and paid for. Just like these politicians.

Squishy123 May 6, 2015 at 9:16 am

I bet Darrell Jackson would disagree.

He's right May 6, 2015 at 9:27 am

Eff that slick haired bastard.. Those are my grandmother’s words, not mine.

Soft Sigh from Hell May 5, 2015 at 6:59 pm

“And if you knew what these good ole boys and gals were really about, you would be too.”

I, for one, welcome the political version of muckraking. Make it hot for them!

Mom May 5, 2015 at 7:07 pm

Your implying that Nikki Haley was elected simply bc she’s a women is an insult to the intelligence of voters. We are smarter than you think, Mia.

Limbaughsaphatkhunt May 5, 2015 at 7:58 pm

Agreed. Haley was elected because of the poor intelligence of voters, not as an insult to them.

GrandTango May 5, 2015 at 9:02 pm

That applies to Obama…considering the mess he has made of our country. Haley has done OK, considering the state of the nation’s economy.

Limbaughsaphatkhunt May 5, 2015 at 9:53 pm

Yep, he single handedly has ruined this country. Like a democratically elected superhero who still retains a 50% approval he has been able to leap over Congress in a single bound…he’s faster than the Supreme Court and able to stop all 50 state legislatures like a speeding bullet.

GrandTango May 6, 2015 at 8:28 am

You people sure do put A LOT of confidence in polls…except for the one that was taken Nov. 4….LMAO…

When you have people as F*#king gullible and stupid as you…no wonder you’re so easy to control…

Lindsey Graham May 5, 2015 at 8:01 pm

No you fucking aren’t, who are you guys kidding.

mamatiger92 May 6, 2015 at 8:28 am

The fact that you voted for her at all, regardless of her gender, proves that you are not.

Rakkasan May 6, 2015 at 10:29 am

I am happy to insult the intelligence of voters.

fc May 6, 2015 at 10:32 am

You voted for ISIS twice.I believe you.

Rakkasan May 6, 2015 at 10:40 am

Busted. I saw that special proposal on the ballot and checked the “Yes” box. How did you know? If you were any kind of patriot, you’d be warning us about how the Army is going got take over Texas, take the guns away, and then the country will be divided into 5 areas, each one with its own vice-president.

Limbaughsaphatkhunt May 5, 2015 at 7:56 pm

Marry me Mia!!!!!!!

GrandTango May 5, 2015 at 9:01 pm

I don’t think she’s interested in animals…unless Obama changes that law on a whim, too…

John Boy May 5, 2015 at 9:03 pm

Yet, Tango swears he’s not racist…

GrandTango May 5, 2015 at 9:05 pm

Typical liberal Dumb-@$$…anything dealing w/ race…and you RUSH the the ‘R’ word…because you’re too F*#king stupid to think of anything else….

John Boy May 5, 2015 at 9:06 pm

Where did I say Republican? Lol…

GrandTango May 5, 2015 at 9:12 pm

You didn’t say “Typical Liberal Dumb@$$” either…but it’s obvious you are one….LMAO…

John Boy May 5, 2015 at 9:17 pm

Funny how you’re running amok and looking like an idiot over this one…Mia slapped you too hard?

GrandTango May 5, 2015 at 9:42 pm

Racist idiots like her, only register w/ lily white cul-d-sac you …who were brought up privileged..

So when she hates you for being white, and handed everything…you believe it…because Daddy gave you all that you have…You’re ignorant and you’re guilty…Liberals LOVE dumb@$$#$, like you…

You are like her…you don’t realize that most WHITE people work for things…and don’t run around like you, and Mia, thinking money falls from trees…because you sit on your lazy @$$#$ and demand hand-outs…

John Boy May 5, 2015 at 10:15 pm

You damn fool, I was born dirt poor and integration didn’t happen ’til the early ’70s in my county. I was in the third grade and had my first black friend. I was the first person in my family to graduate college. Now, I have once again showed your DUMBASS what a dogmatic prick you really are. Anyway, John Boy says goodnight.

GrandTango May 6, 2015 at 8:23 am

So you went from severe poverty to college graduate, and you let this privileged, elitist politician bash you because – according to her racist propaganda – you have no idea what it’s like to struggle, because you’re WHITE…

And you go from “dirt poor” to being afforded the opportunity for an education, yet you espouse a party doctrine that spews hatred for rich Republicans, because everyone is held down by them???…

You may have gone to school, but D*#n sure didn’t learn anything, other than the mythology the media and the DNC teaches its dolts, in order to control you….

Alias The Buzzman May 6, 2015 at 10:06 am

Mia never said white people don’t struggle, fool.

GrandTango May 6, 2015 at 11:49 am

If even ONE white person has had it harder than even ONE African-American, her WHOLE race-based theory to allow hatred…is SHOT….

If this country is so RACIST…there are, and should be…NO EXCEPTIONS…or convenient little caveats to make you not look like idiots, and liars…in your mythology….

John Boy May 6, 2015 at 10:16 am

I learned enough to know what a simple-minded idiot sounds like. Keep drinking that Koch-Aid, Fuckstick.

fc May 6, 2015 at 10:23 am

You are a college graduate and you spend all day ‘upvoting’ the most perverse and anti American post on Fits 24/7…

Easy read John Boy.You were a wimp in school…not an athlete…no friends except the token black that befriended you because you were a weirdo…because you were dumber than fuck and had no self esteem the vietnam era tenured professors were able to brainwash you into believing America is evil and whitey is the problem.

Many people grow out of that.Because you never had a strong family,faith or educational base you have not been able to and continue to swirl around in the cesspool of hate called liberalism.

John Boy May 6, 2015 at 10:57 am

OMG! What are you doing trolling all day with that Tango fellow? That psychic abillity you have there could make you waaaayy more money. I swear that young man I saw of the TV was making bank…

GrandTango May 6, 2015 at 11:44 am

Don’t get mad because I outed you for a cliche-riding Dumb@$$…

That said: are you going to answer my question???….She says you are privileged and born w/ all the advantages, because you are white…

You agree w/ her because you’re begging for her approval because she is African-American…and makes you feel guilty for being white…

But to do that you must disavow the clams you make…which is it?..are you so F*#king stupid you’ll sell out your own life story for Liberal Race Hate politicians????..or do you have the GUTS to call her out for the Bull-$#!t Queen she is????

Tango On The Dole May 6, 2015 at 12:04 pm

Your lack of comprehension is totally mind-blowing. Did you even read her piece?

GrandTango May 6, 2015 at 1:16 pm

Why do you always deny, and run from what you are???

Limbaughsaphatkhunt May 5, 2015 at 9:27 pm

why don’t you just type dumbass?

John Boy May 5, 2015 at 9:31 pm

Because Reagan will send him to hell.

mamatiger92 May 6, 2015 at 8:38 am

for reals…

Limbaughsaphatkhunt May 5, 2015 at 9:27 pm

“o.k….o.k…I’m not a racist….but..”

David May 5, 2015 at 7:58 pm

classic ABW(angry black woman),,,
I often wonder what it would be like if people did not uses their skin color as their main identifier, internally and externally. It’s really sad that it’s all they have to stand on, how about hard work and honest living?

Soft Sigh from Hell May 5, 2015 at 8:12 pm

How come that’s all you noticed?

GrandTango May 5, 2015 at 9:00 pm

I noticed the cliched ignorance she spouts, too. You probably do the same, don’t you?

Soft Sigh from Hell May 6, 2015 at 6:25 pm

GlansTangle has some issues, doesn’t 0.5he?

Limbaughsaphatkhunt May 5, 2015 at 11:50 pm

More like LWB (legislating while black)…

Steve Forbes May 5, 2015 at 8:40 pm

Or have a rich Daddy?

GrandTango May 5, 2015 at 8:57 pm

Race will be a REAL issue in this country…until African-Americans in leadership – and those who follow them – stop complaining and begging, and take responsibility…and Contribute…

This country has given you MUCH, MUCH more than you have ever even begun to pay back…yet you whine and lash out at white people because you are awash in HATE and ill-will…

The wage of sin is death…and it’s just as sinful to hate based on white skin, as it was, way back when, when Democrats did it to blacks…

Until you stop voting as a block – one party only – for people who dole out handouts to you, you are not fully assimilating into our country…

Get your head out of your @$$…and get in the game. You are not fully vested because you TAKE…and take only. When you begin to GIVE, maybe you’ll realize that life is difficult for all of us. And then you’ll have some empathy for struggling WHITE people..instead of contempt for them.

You are wrong and bitter. You can change that, with courage…but it will take leaving the fools controlling you, in order to feed their GREED, and maintain political power…because they can use the ignorant to vote them in.

Wrest yourself from your demons, and repent. Then you will be free and honorable.

GrandTango and Cash May 6, 2015 at 12:14 am

Hey. Mr Dipshit. How long have you been a dipshit?

GrandTango May 6, 2015 at 8:26 am

Translation: I hit the NAIL on the head…and you’re so F*#king stupid, all you can do is attack….because you Know I’m right, and you know you’re a Dumb@$$…

The Buzzman May 6, 2015 at 2:26 am

” … fully assimilated …”

What are you, the fucking Borg?

Rhetorical question, of course.

GrandTango May 6, 2015 at 8:25 am

Thanks for reading Boz…hope it makes you think of something outside of the cliches and mythology that bind you…

PS: More than 70% of Black men do not marry the mothers of their children…yet you hate white America for damaging you….That’s not just ignorance…that TOTAL F*#king ignorance…

The Buzzman May 6, 2015 at 10:14 am

Since I don’t even believe in “white people” as a race, I can’t hate “them.” Since part of my DNA is what is considered to be “white”, if I did that, I’d hate part of myself. I don’t.

I’m real clear on the fact that I’m nowhere near as damaged by anybody or anything as you.

GrandTango May 6, 2015 at 11:47 am

Funny thing about liberals…you so fear truth, you’ll bend yourselves into contortions before you’ll face the simple realities of life..and admit the ignorance of leftwing politics….

fc May 6, 2015 at 10:16 am

White people aren’t a race according to Buz.Ask him about Transgender? LMAO!!!

GrandTango May 6, 2015 at 11:45 am


CC: Bruce Jenner……LMAO…

easterndumbfuckistan May 6, 2015 at 8:53 pm

“I am GrandTango of Borg. Resistance is futile. Your life as it has been is over. From this time forward you will service us.”

mamatiger92 May 6, 2015 at 8:35 am

“empathy for struggling WHITE people”
Thanks for the giggles this morning.
In other news, I think I just found my new Disqus user name.

GrandTango May 6, 2015 at 9:19 am

Simple questions:

So you submit that no white people struggle????…and you laugh at me for suggesting that any white people may have a difficult time making it, economically.

mamatiger92 May 6, 2015 at 9:43 am

This country has given white folks MUCH, MUCH more than you have ever even begun to pay back…yet you whine and lash out at black people because you are awash in HATE and ill-will…

Until you stop voting as a block – one party only – you are not fully assimilating into our country…

You are wrong and bitter. You can change that, with courage…but it will take leaving the fools controlling you, in order to feed their GREED, and maintain political power…because they can use the ignorant to vote them in.

fc May 6, 2015 at 10:13 am

How fucking stupid.What has the country given white folks that is hasn’t given black folks?

Please tell me one damn thing a white person can do that a black person can’t? Just one.

Blacks can actually be openly racist like this angry black witch-whites can’t.

mamatiger92 May 6, 2015 at 10:18 am

Just repeating what GT said. Don’t like it? Take it up with him.

fc May 6, 2015 at 10:28 am

You appear a lot smarter when you just give one word reply’s like ‘truth’ or ‘yes’…have you considered going back to school?

mamatiger92 May 6, 2015 at 10:36 am

oh, the irony….

The Buzzman May 6, 2015 at 10:20 am

Most “white” people can drive through almost any neighborhood, regardless of how many are in the car, without being stopped for being a suspicious person or group. I know I can, and most people do consider me to be “white.” Deny it all you will, but this is the truth. African-descended persons who are dark of skin (especially) are treated as criminals by much of the dominant culture, simply for going about their daily lives. If they protest being stopped for no reason, sometimes they are tasered. If they are grabbed for no reason and resist, they are beat senseless, and sometimes killed. How often does this happen to “white people.?”

Almost never.

fc May 6, 2015 at 10:27 am

Similar statistics were released by the Federal Bureau of Investigation (FBI) in the “Uniform Crime Reports.” They determined, “In the year 2008, black youths, who make up 16% of the youth population, accounted for 52% of juvenile violent crime arrests, including 58% for homicide and 67% for robbery.” By contrast, the only categories where white youths surpassed blacks were in liquor law violations and driving under the influence. – See more at:

Think this may be a reason? I sure didn’t see any whites burning and looting in Ferguson or Baltimore.

fc May 6, 2015 at 10:31 am

You are telling me you can be ‘white’ and drive thru Racepath or on Canal St. in MB and not be deemed suspicious by the MBPD?

Read Your Own Shit May 6, 2015 at 10:41 am

What’s a “witch-white”?

fu May 6, 2015 at 10:48 am

Similar to a ‘shit-face’ like you. Does that help?

Read Your Own Shit May 6, 2015 at 11:01 am

Thanks, Half-Brained.

staffer May 6, 2015 at 1:01 pm

If you really believe this you have to get outside your bubble and get some fresh air. It smells like bullshit in there.

GrandTango May 6, 2015 at 11:51 am

Have to plagiarize to cover your ignorance much???…LMAO…

mamatiger92 May 6, 2015 at 1:58 pm

Says the idiot that incessantly parrots Limbaugh. Buy a clue. Hypocritical much? Lack of self-awareness much?

GrandTango May 6, 2015 at 3:12 pm

Hate who you are, much????

John Boy May 5, 2015 at 9:18 pm

Great job, Mia!

erneba May 5, 2015 at 9:56 pm

I like to judge the ideas of people and derive an opinion about people, especially politicians, via their written words. If there is constant reference or allusion to one’s race, sex, religion, etc., there is, to me, a diminution of the value of the message that one is trying to convey. Rarely, for political or general discussion is the sex. race, or religion, etc., necessary unless it is a personal discussion or you are out on a date.
Sometimes it is absolutely necessary to bring up race, sex, etc., in political debate, but those times should be rare. Good government should not depend on your race, sex, religion, or how angry you are.

Noncents May 5, 2015 at 10:20 pm

Hey Mia! How about exposing the waste and shenanigans at the South Carolina Small Business Development Centers?? What about the RAISES and BONUSES they are giving their STATE EMPLOYEES? How did they get those through under the radar? What about their taxpayer funded jaunts around the state. Their downtown Greenville meeting got called out by a SBDC contractor who was summarily TERMINATED for blowing the whistle. These clowns need to be EXPOSED!!

Mary May 6, 2015 at 7:40 am

You are 100% correct on this! I thought no one else was paying attention to this but me.

They pay high salaries but even worse are the fees paid to various insiders and middlemen. It is outrageous!

Please, someone with power, look into this!

Right winger May 6, 2015 at 7:28 am

Good for her. The establishment uses words like civility to shut up those they disagree with and to halt candor. I am a conservative republican and I with Mia 100% on her analysis of this tactic.

By the way, as the establishment demands civility from their adversaries, those same establishment types are stabbing in the back those not in lockstep with them .

They are the dirtisest players in the ballgame.

SYNTwist May 7, 2015 at 9:10 pm

If you are a conservative Republican as you say, why do you not have a disqus or sign in with FB? I notice most comments on this site use the same buzz words. Where is your avatar, why no disqus? Why no FB, no nothing to back up your claim? I’ve had enough with phonies. You are likely getting paid to post this crap.

No offense to Mia, but I can’t seem to find more than a couple REAL people on this site and there is damn good reason. Those who try to help – they are thrown under the bus.

Folks is a good writer, but beware.

staffer May 6, 2015 at 9:44 am

Thank you Mia for writing a thoughtful article. I disagree with the notion that it is racist. To some people, like GT, anytime a black person talks about race, its racist. He needs to be punched in the throat. I think a lot of what incites racist whites is some of the rhetoric that comes out of what whites perceive as the “black leadership.” For instance, I think that closed minds like to paint the entire black race through controversial things Al Sharpton says. He’s not always wrong but he approaches issues of racist in a way that is more pandering than diplomatic. The world needs more black leaders like you Mia. Someone that can intelligently articulate racial issues. There is no doubt that the Grand Tangos of the world will still call you racist but most thoughtful people, of all color, recognize the need to unify people professionally, socially and spiritually. When you see racism, call it out. It’s wrong. BUT, if you call everything racist, you lose credibility. That goes for all races. We are brothers and sisters on this planet. Let’s start acting like it and seek common ground, not dividing lines.

fc May 6, 2015 at 10:38 am

Then stop burning our fucking cities down ‘brother and sisters’!!!

staffer May 6, 2015 at 12:50 pm

That was their shit they burnt, not mine.

staffer May 6, 2015 at 12:58 pm

And, for the record, the rioters aren’t every black person. Did you see the mama that went into the crowd and pulled her son out? Did you see the pictures of the black children give out water to police? Did you see the line of young men talking to rioters, telling them to be peaceful? The very definition of racism is the ignorant broad categorization of an entire race based upon the rationalization that the acts of few define the character of all.. It is an inability and unwillingness to look beyond the surface. Ironically, if you have hatred in your heart, only you will suffer.

SYNTwist May 7, 2015 at 9:03 pm

79 all says comments, how many of those original? When she doesn’t agree with you? Is she a piece of dung? That seems to be how this site works.

Silence is golden. Given the traffic on this site, the worst thing someone can is nothing. Is everyone on the payroll or are article AND comment made by a few. I am looking for the FEW real people on this site. Just a few – where are you?


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