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I’M NOT SAYING THESE WOMEN ARE MAKING IT UP, BUT … By TAYLOR BROWN || If you are a woman, chances are, you were told, as I was, that your right to say “yes” or “no” to sex is absolute.  I hope, if you are a man, that your parents…

I’M NOT SAYING THESE WOMEN ARE MAKING IT UP, BUT …

IMG_3667By TAYLOR BROWN || If you are a woman, chances are, you were told, as I was, that your right to say “yes” or “no” to sex is absolute.  I hope, if you are a man, that your parents told you to never have sex with a woman if she is giving you anything less than her consent.  Sex can, and should, be one of the most incredible experiences of your life when both parties are enthusiastically saying “yes.”

When this consent is taken away (either with a “no,” or if the other individual (man or woman) is incapable of saying “yes”) this is rape.  Rape is rape is rape.

There’s no grey area.  It is black and white.  Night and day.  Yes (or roofied, passed out from alcohol, or any other situation you can possibly think of that would make the opposite party unresponsive) and no.

We have become so desensitized to the idea of rape from SVU and other TV shows or movies, video games, music, etc. but one cannot blame a person’s action on “society;” or “societal pressure;” or “boys will be boys;” or “I thought she wanted it.”

And you DEFINITELY cannot blame the victim.

Sadly, the courts grant the alleged rapist with more respect than many people out there treat the victims.  The accused is innocent until proven guilty, yet this concept doesn’t seem to hold true for the one who wasn’t given a chance to say yes, or said no and was forced against their will to have non-consensual sex.  That is to say, shouldn’t the victim be believed until there’s a reason not to believe the allegations?

Whether it’s the latest allegations against Bill Cosby, a star FSU football player, a group of Steubenville High School students, Ben Roethlisberger, Woody Allen, or a myriad of others—people seem to automatically place the blame on the victims.  THIS is exactly one of the many reasons a rape victim may not come forward to report the crime – because they are afraid people won’t believe their story.

If you type in “Bill Cosby + rape” into the Twitter search bar, you’ll find people who have slammed the alleged victims or, even worse, praised the alleged acts of rape.  Yet, it was shockingly somehow worse when “#RapeCultureIsWhen” was trending.

I have a collection of screenshots of tweets that say things like #RapeCultureIsWhen “a guy buys a girl food and she doesn’t put out,” “rape culture is delusional,” “white women have to look for a reason to be oppressed,” “a hashtag [started by] feminists that are too ugly to be raped anyway LOL,” among many others.  ARE YOU F*CKING KIDDING ME?!   These people are giving more respect to the rapist than to the victim?!  Christ!  Then they turn around and ask why the victim didn’t report it?!

Between the victim-blaming, talking to countless police officers (who often times ask “what were you wearing?” or “do you just regret your choice to sleep with him?”), the rape exam they perform on the victim, it is, let me tell you from personal experience,  just like being raped all over again.

My story isn’t different or special than anything other than what countless other women have been through or shared.  But perhaps because my story isn’t special you’ll realize that what you say or do to women who have gone through this (whether via the comment section below, or on Twitter, or in person, etc.) does make a difference.

I’ve seen some tweets and heard some things from supposed “friends” that made me question whether telling my story was worth it.  Many people who I follow on Twitter seem to believe that if you don’t report it, you’re not a victim.  This is bullsh*t.  A woman didn’t have a choice in being raped, but she does – whether or not you agree with it – have the choice of whether or not to report it.  She has the choice – whether an hour, a day, a week, a month, a year, a decade or more – to report it or to share her story.

Please let me be clear in this: I’m not saying the women who have accused Bill Cosby of rape are telling the truth, but I’m saying I won’t “slut shame” them, and neither should you.

No one actually knows the number of false rape accusations, but those women should be ashamed of themselves.  They are making it harder for victims to come forward and to be trusted.  But even if these women are making these claims up, by putting the burden of proof on them, you’re making it easier on the alleged rapist.

What do you personally think rape is?  Do you think saying “We are being raped by this opposing team / test / work meeting / hangover / xyz” is funny?  If the victim was drunk does that make you feel more or less upset than if she was sober?  What if she had slept with other guys?  How does that make you feel?  Do you believe her more or less?  What if she was a virgin?  Do you feel more or less sympathy?  What if you admired her alleged rapist?  Or knew him?  What characteristics do you think would strong-arm someone into having sex if they had previously said no?  (Hint: five no’s and a forced yes is legally still a no).  Does it matter if the victim had previously slept with her attacker?  What if she was attacked by a stranger?  What if she knew her attacker and went to see him, on her own free will—not wanting sex? Rape is rape.  The specifics don’t matter.  A woman was violated.

Does a woman really need to have her house broken into by strangers in masks and be beaten up or murdered for it to be rape?  Stop making these women jump through all of these hoops to have your trust.  Maybe then she’ll feel comfortable enough to go to the police after she is raped.  She’s already going through enough without your judgment or accusations thrown at her.

Trust me when I say this, NO WOMAN WANTS TO BE RAPED.

I have spent days trying to decide if I’m ready for any Joe Schmo off the street to know my most traumatic experience.  I feel like I’m going to be judged or looked at differently or like I’ve got too much baggage or I’m damaged after making this so public, but it was my choice.  I was lucky, and I had more supportive people in my life than I did detractors.  Now imagine how women feel that were raped by people in positions of power or in the public spotlight.

Assuming these women are telling the truth, they’ve been battling their demons and feelings of guilt for long enough.  Stop being just another cross they have to bear.  Stop being one of those reasons women don’t come forward.  If you’ve been in her situation, show some sympathy. If you haven’t been raped, show some f*cking empathy.

Taylor Brown is a 20-something Wofford College graduate who somehow got sucked into politics at an early age.  She is easily won over with Rush’s fast food, wine, and spirited political arguments.

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59 comments

TontoBubbaGoldstein November 25, 2014 at 11:19 am

No one actually knows the number of false rape accusations, but those women should be ashamed of themselves.

They should be tried and if convicted, sentenced the same as rapists.

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euwe max November 25, 2014 at 12:30 pm

the same as rapists
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you’re far too generous… rapists can’t help themselves… but these vindictive bitches… they… they… *deserve*… spit.. choke.. sputter.. foam..

they should let their falsely accused *actually* rape them, so they can see what a hideous crime they’re accusing them of!

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euwe max November 25, 2014 at 11:19 am

I wonder if you can shame a psychopath, or stimulate their conscience.

I seriously doubt if a “good talking to” or a lecture on the golden rule will fill them with empathy for their victims.

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Alex DeLarge November 25, 2014 at 1:15 pm

It almost worked for me.

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euwe max November 25, 2014 at 1:19 pm

I know, right? It just wouldn’t be right if it didn’t make you feel guilty.

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#Dabosquealinglikeapig November 25, 2014 at 2:10 pm

Is Tiger rape an offense because that is what a bunch of Cocks are going to do Saturday in Clemson?

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Squishy123 November 25, 2014 at 2:24 pm

Well if you’d just stay in the kitchen you wouldn’t have to worry about all this…

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Prison Sex November 25, 2014 at 3:03 pm

I don’t know about you, but all this rape talk has got me hot.

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Squishy123 November 25, 2014 at 7:19 pm

I think I’ll watch Chained Heat tonight.

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WoCo November 26, 2014 at 2:26 am

So, neither of you has anything intelligent to contribute so you compensate by trying to create shock value? Yeah, spare the rest of us thinkers and go back to your ignorant circle jerk.
And to just had to the first comment about the kitchen (though I know you are not being litteral) – that’s not even logical. Lets say the house wife needs to go out for groceries. She risks being raped by a stranger. Let’s say she (and her husband) have a daughter. Should she still not worry about the safety of their child? These women who are attacked have families, lovers, spouses or potential spouses. You injure and anger all those people too. So, yeah, she has a right to worry about this.
(The same goes for male victims of rape, that should not be ignored.)

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Prison Sex November 26, 2014 at 1:03 pm

Can we film your butthurt and make rape porn with it?

Montreal Ernest Rothstein. November 25, 2014 at 2:53 pm

“Please let me be clear in this: I’m not saying the women who have accused Bill Cosby of rape are telling the truth…”
I’m glad you make that clear after utterly contradicting it throughout the first half of your article.

“No one actually knows the number of false rape accusations, but those women should be ashamed of themselves.”

SHAME! SHAME! But that’s okay, you’ve only destroyed a man’s life. A proper shaming will suffice to teach you not to do it again.

“But even if these women are making these
claims up, by putting the burden of proof on them, you’re making it
easier on the alleged rapist.”
So, we should change our entire concept of ‘innocent until proven guilty’, and burden of proof lying with the prosecution?

FITS, where on earth did you ever find this incredibly ignorant twat? Or, more to the point, what is she doing for you to allow her to write for this BLOG? Or are you just trying to make all Republicans everywhere look bad. (Yeah, I see what’s coming…)

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Soft Sigh from Hell November 25, 2014 at 7:52 pm

“Or are you just trying to make all Republicans everywhere look bad.”

No one is forcing them to post their comments.

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euwe max November 27, 2014 at 11:46 am

“Or are you just trying to make all Republicans everywhere look bad. ”

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I’m reminded of the woman with a fat ass asking if her dress makes her ass look fat.

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Buz Martin November 25, 2014 at 3:01 pm

Excellent. I still don’t agree with much of what you have to say, Taylor. I still believe you came off as arrogant with your first article. But I’m sorry for the nastiness of some of my comments up to now. God bless you.

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So what? November 25, 2014 at 4:28 pm

And there is always the possibility that she doesn’t give a rats ass what you think.

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Buz Martin November 25, 2014 at 6:15 pm

I’m sure that’s the case. That’s why she “voted up” the comment to which you are responding.

No, wait …

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Buz Martin November 25, 2014 at 3:09 pm

In today’s fresh hell story about Cosby, we learn that when he found out that Mike Tyson had raped his daughter, he made them both get therapy. Yeah, like both those crazy kids just needed some 12-Step work and some Virginia Satir, no other issue there. Put that together with the main subject of the story (from Gawker), which is that he gave National Enquirer an exclusive story about his daughter’s drug addiction to keep them from publishing one about him and wild sex parties with Sammy Davis Jr. For good measure, add in the fact that when the daughter he conceived out of wedlock asked for back child support, he got her set up be busted and sent to prison. Anybody still not convinced that “America’s Dad” is monstrous POS capable of being a serial rapist and still trying to come off as the ultimate family man and expert on good behavior for black men? If not, you are beyond being hopeless.

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Buz Martin November 25, 2014 at 4:38 pm

In cast the point of all that was missed, let me see if I can drive it home a little better: The key thing to remember in all of that — besides him seeming OK with a man having raped his daughter, if only he and she both got some professional help, and trading personal info on his daughter to a scandal rag to save his own reputation — is that he set his other daughter up to be busted by the FBI. He was powerful and ruthless enough to do these horrible things to his own flesh and blood. And people ask why none of the other women went to the cops.

btw, some of them did go to the authorities, including the one who pressed the suit in 2005, and settled out of court in 2006. The DA in that case said he believed Cosby had raped her, but did not have the hard evidence to prove it.

Forget race. Forget the “responsibility” of the victims. This was an enormously wealthy and powerful man, who picked on relative nobodies, because he knew nobody would believe them over him.

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Dad November 25, 2014 at 3:38 pm

I am sorry you were a victim of such a heinous act. I have a wife and two daughters so I’m very sensitive to the issue.

However, I’m struggling why you would choose this venue to unburden yourself. Perhaps you are doing so in other venues as well?

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WoCo November 26, 2014 at 2:13 am

And what if she discusses her own life story in multiple venues, let alone this one? It is her personal experience to share however she feels comfortable. This is a space where SHE blogs, where HER opinions are shared, and personal experience is a major factor in developing such opinions. You’ve come into her arena – no one forced readers to hear what she has to say.
Intelligent discussion and respectful debate can be expected, but there is nothing intelligent or respectful about questioning when and where she tells her story. It’s not considered inappropriate content by those who run the site and not against any of there publishing rules. You have no right to delegate where she can or cannot speak.

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Dad November 26, 2014 at 6:46 am

I asked a simple question. I was invited into her arena by her employer/sponsor.

Are you a regular reader or participant in this forum? If not, you should familiarize yourself better with it’s tone and content. If yes, I’m surprised you don’t understand my intrigue.

I didn’t check my curiosity at the portal. Am I to read without thinking? Is it a rule that I should not question Ms. Brown even though her column is meant to provoke thought and reaction. That is the purpose of this blog. If it doesn’t happen, FITS generates no hits and no income.

Just for clarification let me restate the second paragraph of my post: “I assume that you are unburdening yourself in other venues. If not, what makes this venue your choice to unburden yourself of such a very personal and sensitive matter?”

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:) November 26, 2014 at 1:01 pm

“Am I to read without thinking?”

This is the wrong place to ask that question.

“Is it a rule that I should not question Ms. Brown even though her column is meant to provoke thought and reaction. That is the purpose of this blog.”

and THAT…is why I post ridiculous responses to ridiculous write ups….the cynic inside me loves consternation heaped upon itself. I love the mocking of absurdity.

It’s my dirty secret, please don’t tell….lol

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Dad November 26, 2014 at 2:13 pm

Yep, there’s a lot of airheads in this place. I think we’ve got one here.

:)

Buz Martin November 27, 2014 at 10:38 am

Did Sic give you a formal invitation? Was it RSVP? If so, produce it sir! Also, show proof that “Dad” is your real name — or run the risk of not being taken seriously at all. HAH! (Too late, that ship has sailed.)

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TontoBubbaGoldstein November 25, 2014 at 4:40 pm

What characteristics do you think would strong-arm someone into having sex if they had previously said no? (Hint: five no’s and a forced yes is legally still a no).

Even with the hint, TBG still doesn’t have a clue.

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CorruptionInColumbia November 26, 2014 at 2:02 pm

I would think the last answer would be the determining one. If true coercion or force were used, I doubt the victim would be giving consent, it would just happen. Geeze, remember when we were in high school and later, how many of us had encounters very similar to the one in Meatloaf’s old song, “Paradise By The Dashboard Light”. The feminists want to criminalize that too, I guess.

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Buz Martin November 27, 2014 at 10:42 am

How can you be such an expert on something you’ve never experienced? Sure, Taylor does that with issues involving extreme poverty, abortion, race, etc. Are you seeking to mirror that on this issue?

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CorruptionInColumbia November 28, 2014 at 8:31 pm

I never claimed to be an expert, but does one need to have been a victim of armed robbery to understand the dynamics that go into that type incident. Would one have to have been murdered to have an understanding of the dynamics that accompany that?

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Buz Martin November 28, 2014 at 9:36 pm

No. Of course not. I just find it odd that you make so many assumptions about the intentions of the women, the validity of their claims, etc. You act as though you know with absolute certainty that any woman who has really been raped would behave this way or that way. And you seem to reflexively discount everything I have to say about the subject. Which, btw, comes from knowing many women who were raped but did not report it right away or even fully understand that it had been rape at the time. There is no one size fits all model for this kind of thing.

It’s been explained again and again that several of these women did go to the authorities, but that due to the kinds of drugs administered, there was no trace of it in their system by then. And what on earth would Janice Dickerson have to gain by coming forth with information on her experience with Cosby? She’s already world famous and wealthy, and has risked much credibility by telling the truth.

And where are all of Cosby’s dear friends who are staunch defenders? Where’s Oprah? Where’s Phylicia Rashad? Why won’t they help him in this time of need?

Why do all of those universities now want nothing to do with him? It’s far more than liberal politics at work. They all know he is guilty and that this is only going to get worse. Otherwise there would be more than a few family members, business associates and others with a financial stake in Cosby’s enterprises and fortune, who are taking a stand for him.

euwe max November 29, 2014 at 3:28 am

Your problem is you’re trying to read the text. You can’t just read it.. you have to grok it…

“strong arm” is woman-talk for a man who doesn’t know what “foreplay” is, and instead, tries to use the woman’s body as a blow-up doll, as though she’s not even in it. “forcing yes” is a little more problematic.. however I can speculate.

Once alone with a woman, “making out,” – that is, kissing, breast fondling, nuzzling… you pass several signposts along the way.. some might say “do not enter,” some might say “slow”.. “bridge may be iced over”.. and of course, some of the signs may have more than one state – like yellow.. which may then turn red for a short while, and then, finally turn green… Though the signs may seem to contradict each other, you’re good to go until you see the big red STOP sign.. which might require you to retire to review your lovemaking manual, or your date calendar.. Though, as in the real world, once you come to a full stop, you may find that after a patient wait it is ok to proceed legally… however, lovemaking isn’t the real world, and a full stop will usually require a tow truck.

Reading a woman’s mind is impossible, so here are some guidelines to help the unintended rapist thread the intercourse needle.

You should take your cue from the woman’s breathing, the tumescence of her nipples and labia, the plasma seepage from vaginal walls due to vascular engorgement and the secretions of mucous from Bartholin’s glands augmenting the vaginal-wall secretions.

When all of the symptoms of arousal are present, it may be that the negative-sounding moaning noises are caused by the female entering into a state of mind in which the will is succumbing to the yearning for release by stages. In this state, the battle for control itself may add to her pleasure by extending each new plateau through the application of mental discipline. The apparent reluctance being merely an aid to maximizing the amount of time each new increase in pleasure is experienced.

It is left to the judgement of an aroused male, seeing (and feeling) the woman go through these stages of arousal, whether it is a natural progression of passion, and though not a total and immediate abdication of will, is nonetheless necessary for maximum and mutual satisfaction. Rushing her through this or pressing the wrong button at the wrong time, might be irritating enough for her to lose her buzz, utter the safe word “no!” and mark the beginning of being raped.

All of this can be said to use the law to help insure that foreplay is long and pleasurable enough, once sexual arousal has begun in earnest – and in some cases, an aid to getting hers without you getting yours. Most women aren’t liberated enough to request that her date give her head without reciprocation, or to bring her to orgasm digitally after foreplay to preserve her virginity… so they might instead, try to get off on your dime before “things get really serious,” and after sampling your skills, try to stop the train pre-tunnel, figuring the threat of rape is sufficient to preserve her “honor.”

Not all women will grab your dick and put it in their vagina for you after you kiss on them a little bit to indicate willingness to engage in the sexual act. They’d rather you fumble around creatively, visiting their sweet spots before rushing into a quick climax.

I hope this little guideline helps some poor schmuck some unnecessary time in the slammer.

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TontoBubbaGoldstein November 25, 2014 at 4:45 pm

Rape is rape is rape.

It is.
“Regret sex” is not.

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CorruptionInColumbia November 26, 2014 at 1:59 pm

Amen, brother!

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TontoBubbaGoldstein November 26, 2014 at 2:40 pm

TBG has never gone to bed with an ugly woman, but he has woke up with a few…

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CorruptionInColumbia November 26, 2014 at 3:00 pm

Yes, me too!

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uh oh November 25, 2014 at 6:42 pm

You know what? I wonder if the ones who are posting disgusting jokes about rape on here would do the same if we all revealed our names? Cowards! Disgusting cowards! To the writer, I am so sorry for your rape. That is something I could never ever imagine. I understand you are angry, but I bet you could have gotten your point across without using the language you chose to use in your article. I see that you are in your twenties. I am hoping as you grow and mature, that you will be able to speak and help others who have gone through the same thing but without the language you chose. Again, I am very sorry this happened to you and I hope you take it and use it to help others.

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E Norma Scok November 25, 2014 at 9:37 pm

“What do you personally think rape is?”

Accusing and finding guilty a man of rape before he ever gets to the courtroom.

That’s kind of one of those toothpaste out of the tube type things; women used to use crying against men; now they use the “he raped me”.

So what is rape to me? I know it’s NOT a woman completely saying “yes”, then given a few days to measure her own perceived social standing then saying “no”. And it certainly isn’t a woman who emphatically says yes at the time, all in search of a payday later by saying she said “no”. Or basically the same–never having been in a position to say “yes” or “no” o begin with.

I’m really glad I’m not dating any longer, and that I’m married. Apparently, having sex now requires a signed, notarized affidavit from both parties. If for whatever reason I ever find myself in the position of having sex with someone I don’t know that well, I think I’ll just skip it, go home and knock one out in the shower, and call it a day. Really, in the end, its all the same to me just without the presentation of nipples.

It’ll be a hell of a lot cheaper and easier than battling a trumped up rape charge.

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Enorma Scok November 25, 2014 at 9:47 pm

And to add to that..since there is no statute of limitation on sex crimes in SC..men better hope they never win the lottery or even come into any amount of money that anyone else will find out about. I can imagine that if you do, there will be a bevy of women waiting to have charged you on anything from “sexual harassment” to “rape” (but of course it can all be forgotten for a nominal payoff). You’d have to keep a legal team on retainer to fight off the nonsense. And God help you if ever actually did have sex with any of them..better get your checkbook primed and ready.

Between alimony/paternity suits and possible latent sexual crime charges, I can’t imagine why any man with any amount of money would ever get married. Or anymore, get near a woman without about 10 witnesses. Sex just ain’t all that great.

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Buz Martin November 27, 2014 at 10:47 am

You’re entirely full of massive amounts shit.

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E Norma Scok November 27, 2014 at 11:20 am

Tell me one thing that i said that is incorrect.

Just one.

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Buz Martin November 27, 2014 at 10:46 am

You’re entirely full of shit.

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I just don't get it November 25, 2014 at 10:08 pm

You state in the piece “but even if these woman are are making it up, by putting the burden of proof on them, you are making it easier on the alleged rapist” okay, rape is a horrible awful life changingly terrible thing. But why, unlike any other crime or terrible deed in the world should it be treated with the different standard that the person who is accused is guilty until proven innocent? I think very few people want anything to be any easier on rapist, but many don’t understand why “alleged” rapist are already more guilty and have less rights than alleged murderers, torturers, terrorits et cetera. Many people who support the rights of rape victims and the struggle for better societal treatment of rape survivors, women in general and would love nothing more than to see rapist hanged higher than Haman really really get tired of being told that to question any aspect of a rape allegation, or rather any rape allegation, or advocate for due process for an accused rapist or to preach caution for all the facts to come out controversial rape cases, makes us all either a) closet rapists, b) supporters of a rape culture c) rape apologist d) victim blamers, or e) all four, is so frustrating and mind boggling tiring. Cops have a joke about getting off of juries that goes, when they are asked by the judge if they can be objective in considering guilt or innocence they will say, “sure, but if they put handcuffs on the guy he’s obviously guilty of something” only in the case of allged rape that is apparently not a joke for many. If rape is alleged, it time to stop asking any questions and startto mete out the punishment.

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I just don't get it. November 25, 2014 at 10:13 pm

Follow up to my above, some of the comments below are extremely interested immature and disrespectful, I don’t want to get lost in that mix, my above query is sincere and outlines a conundrum that I have always seem on this issue and if you have a chance to thoughtfully respond I would like to know.

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of note November 25, 2014 at 10:26 pm

You transposed sympathy and empathy at then end, those who’ve experience a similar situation can sympathslize from experience – empathy.

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Guest November 26, 2014 at 6:12 am

Grammar point that affects your meaning – In paragraph 3 you should change your writing to “yes and no (or roofied, passed out from alcohol…)…” The way it’s written now you seem to be including “roofied” and the other non-consensual sex acts in with “yes” because they’re on the same side of the conjunction “and” with “yes.” I’m writing to be helpful, by the way, because I support your point of view.

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CorruptionInColumbia November 26, 2014 at 1:55 pm

“And you DEFINITELY cannot blame the victim.”

Bullshit! I know that in this case, we are talking about rape, but that phrase has become an accepted “truth” in our society which is far from always being correct. I have heard it applied to the person who leaves an expensive firearm on the back seat, leaving their doors unlocked, in a neighborhood or parking area where auto-breakings are a known common problem, and then become a “victim” of theft. I’m sorry, but if you are that stupid, why not just leave a few century notes under your wiper blade and believe they will still be there when you get back to your car, too.

Heck, I can even see extending the “BS” label to situations of alleged sexual assault. I recall a cop friend telling me once about a report he had to take from a woman who took a guy home with her, let him get in the bed with her with BOTH of them being naked, then decided she wanted to cry rape the next day. She said he had sex with her but she didn’t protest and didn’t try to fight him off. NO force or coercion was alleged to have been used by him against her. This is the kind of garbage that causes a lot of people, including the authorities, to do the eye-roll when people like this cry rape. Really, you let a guy get in bed with you, both naked, and you didn’t have a clue what was likely coming (pun not intended) next?

I’m sure the hand-wringers on here will be branding me as the misogynist from hell, but I don’t really give a shit what irrational people think. Really, what the hell do women want????? On one hand they want to be treated as “equals” (something I wholly support) to men, and then with regard to some comments on a related thread a couple of days ago and this article and comments, they want to be treated as these “delicate little flowers” who are apparently incapable of making rational decisions with regard to manipulative men and who need the law to take a heavy hand in their favor, even when it appears the signals communicated between them and the man were a bit “mixed”.

This comment is not about true rape, or at least the definition that most of us used to accept for that word. Seems I recall feminists and women’s advocates running adds a decade or two ago about how rape wasn’t about sex, it was about control, power, and abuse and was violent and debilitating.

Nowadays, the feminists and the legal system define sexual assault to include many things that used to be considered inappropriate and which warranted a slap from the woman if she was not appreciative. Women are told by those who make a living as “victim advocates” and like “professions” that they should be stricken with grief and fall apart mentally and emotionally for years over things that used to warrant a slap to convince the frisky boyfriend or date that she wasn’t wanting to go there. How long before these delicate flowers come unglued and are “scarred for life” because the dog humped their leg when they came home from work?

For what it is worth, I am firmly with those who want to castrate (or worse) the perps who forcibly rape a woman, drug them, or use clear-cut coercion to get there.

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Buz Martin November 27, 2014 at 10:52 am

Finally Taylor posts something valid, and you seem hell-bent on tearing it down.

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CorruptionInColumbia November 28, 2014 at 8:38 pm

Some validity with a sizable content of bull shit.

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euwe max November 27, 2014 at 12:07 pm

I must admit, I do stupid shit all the time, and it makes me mad at myself… if I let my dog off the leash in a moment of weakness out of respect for his doggie freedom, and he runs in front of an 18-wheeler.. I’ll feel like dying, drowning in grief… I’ll also feel bad about what I caused the driver of that truck to go through… but if, on his way to said death by semi, my little puppy runs by a bagger with a .357, and the bagger, seeing an opportunity to exercise his god-given right to use deadly force on a law-breaking, leashless, immaculately groomed, and possibly rabid, little zuchon playfully running by, and shoots little Sammy dead.. I might have to kill that son of a bitch.

Stupid has consequences, but evil fucks must pay!

There are evil motherfuckers around every corner, ready to fuck me in the ass for being stupid or careless.. but that doesn’t mean they get a “motherfuckers must pay!” pass.

My stupidity is no excuse for some Republican making it worse.

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Todd November 27, 2014 at 7:17 am

Rape is assault and battery. No more. No less. Yet the law treats it as a far worse crime because women are a protected class with special privileges. This violates the equal protection clause of the U.S. Constitution. Slut shaming is the last check on female privilege in a society already dangerously close to unlimited power with zero accountability for 50 percent of its citizens. Quit whining and start exercising some prevention.

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Buz Martin November 27, 2014 at 10:50 am

Jealous because you think men should continue to be the only protected class with special privileges? Sounds like it. Besides that, your perspective is hopelessly lopsided in every way. Another puking, whining “men’s rights” putz.

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E Norma Scok November 27, 2014 at 11:24 am

Apparently you’ve been raped before. Was it by another man?

I’m sorry you still have sand in your vagine.

You seem you think a woman won’t cry rape if she thinks there’s a payoff at the end; whether that payoff is a in cash,fame, or saving her dignity.

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Buz Martin November 27, 2014 at 12:00 pm

No, I’ve never been raped. Fondled for a few seconds by a guy one time as a kid, but quickly ran away. Had my crotch grabbed by a guy one time and kicked him in the balls.

One does not have to be raped to sympathize with rape victims. You are apparently one of those assholes who considers sympathy to be a sign you are not a man. Probably suffering from that fucking “alpha male” fantasy bullshit. That’s your problem. I won’t make it mine.

btw, both “butthurt” and “sand in your vagina” have been used to death by this point. Try to find some fresh material that you didn’t crib from some other asshole.

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E Norma Scok November 27, 2014 at 1:40 pm

“As for pointing out all that you say that is either in error or a gross assumption or over-generalization, that could take days. Your comments are riddled with such. Got other things to do.”

Riiigght. But you go blathering on with some self righteous, own your guilt crap for the next 3 paragraphs. Save your weird, old man view on the world that if everyone else doesn’t agree, they are incorrect and of “feeble mind” compared to your infallible intellect. Nobody really gives a shit.

I’m just surprised you have’t hit on her yet; that seems to be your standard MO in some week hope that it will mean something to her.

Actually, you’re pretty sad.

Buz Martin November 27, 2014 at 3:17 pm

/// Riiigght. But you go blathering on with some self righteous, own your guilt crap for the next 3 paragraphs. Save your weird, old man view on the world that if everyone else doesn’t agree, they are incorrect and of “feeble mind” compared to your infallible intellect. Nobody really gives a shit. ///

So, you’re a kid then. Figures. And as far as giving a shit is concerned, you obviously do, or you wouldn’t keep dwelling on me.

/// I’m just surprised you have’t hit on her yet; that seems to be your standard MO in some week hope that it will mean something to her. ///

You know nothing of my “MO”, feeb.

/// Actually, you’re pretty sad. ///

Some days I’m sad, yeah. Not that many, though. And I try to limit the sadness to maybe a half hour or so. After that, sadness is boring as fuck, and I hate being bored. The exception to this is when friends or loved ones die.

But what the hell? Your opinion of me does not amount to a popcorn fart in a hurricane, and neither do you — since you remain one of the legion of dickless wonders on blog comments who love to unload their bile on others while hiding safely behind a fake ID.

So shove it, you bitter, feckless little turd.

E norma scok November 27, 2014 at 6:00 pm

Perhaps you should read that post back to yourself…it’s pretty sad, regardless what I think of you.

Buz Martin November 27, 2014 at 8:31 pm

In the barren, soulless world inside your head, maybe so, little troll man.

E norma Scok November 28, 2014 at 5:45 pm

How awesome are you? You insulted me, but not my argument.

Buz Martin November 28, 2014 at 5:54 pm

I am awesome far beyond you ken, fake-named non-entity.

No insult involved. Clear-eyed, dispassionate assessment is more like it.

Argument? You call that piss-poor collection of cliched, fossilized pieces of rhetorical bullshit an argument?

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