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Letter: SC Comptroller General’s “Family Values”

SO-CALLED “SOCIAL CONSERVATIVE” SHOWS HIS TRUE COLORS Dear Editor, I preface this letter with a few things: 1. Regardless of anything and inclusive of everything – it’s okay. Because at the end of the day, I have the most beautiful little girl in the world.  I have a daughter that…

SO-CALLED “SOCIAL CONSERVATIVE” SHOWS HIS TRUE COLORS

Dear Editor,

I preface this letter with a few things:

1. Regardless of anything and inclusive of everything – it’s okay. Because at the end of the day, I have the most beautiful little girl in the world.  I have a daughter that will always know, love and be cared for by me.  No one will ever take that away, nor could they.  She is truly my ‘Little Miss Pettrey’ and I am so grateful for that.  There is no ounce of regret in me over this child.

2. I have nothing negative to say about any member of the Eckstrom family, other than those I include in my message.  People are people – and I truly and humbly accept that we are all full of faults and make mistakes, myself not excluded.

People may have read what happened between “the SC Comptroller’s son” and I last October.  And to this day, there are so many things that could be said about that night’s incident – including my own regret.  How many errors occurred, how something minuscule (truly, yes I repeat, minuscule) was completely dramatized and falsified (even in a police report) because of who the son was.  How the state of South Carolina failed even me, the alleged victim, time after time.

But that is not what this letter is about.

Earlier this year, I wrote a letter to the editor sharing how hard it was to be pregnant as a single woman when the world looks down upon you.  No one knew what I was going through.  No one knew that I was supposed to be married.  No one knew where the ‘baby daddy was’ or what drama was behind that.  They just saw me as a single woman, pregnant, and the shame came. (I also wrote how despite any and all of that, I knew this child was a child of God and I knew she had a purpose).

No one knew what battles and demons I was facing in my personal life – well, unless of course, you were part of them, or knew those involved in them – i.e. S.C. Comptroller General Richard Eckstrom.

Richard Eckstrom, who convinced his son, (my ex-fiancée, Brad Eckstrom) that from day one “I wasn’t pregnant.” Until they realized, I was.  When that reality became undeniable, Richard convinced his son “it’s not his.” In fact, Richard Eckstrom claimed my daughter was “obviously Will’s” (yes, Will Folks, the editor of FITSNews.com – a man I’ve never even met in person).  Next, Richard suggested if it wasn’t Will’s child then it must have been my ex husband’s (who at the time of conception lived 400+ miles away from me … but you know, magic I reckon!).

But let me back up…

Richard Eckstrom is the same man who – knowing that I dropped out of high school (I started college early and graduated cum lade from the University of Utah with a 3.89 GPA) told me how worthless those who drop out of high school are.  He also wouldn’t look at me in the eye – I suppose it’s because of my half sleeve of tattoos didn’t match his “conservative values.”

Right then and there, began the great amount of appreciation and respect I had for Richard.

This is the same man who offered his son financial relief – if he wouldn’t marry me.  This is the same man who tried to destroy my wedding (little did he know, I was capable of doing that without his help).  Oh, and this is the same man who swore divorce was evil, and then abandoned his wife and kids after thirty years of marriage for another woman.

But obviously, Richard Eckstrom is a devout Christian (or what we in the real world like to define as a ‘glib’ – someone who knows the act well enough to fool you, but is everything but).

So despite not being able to talk to my ex-fiancée, Brad Eckstrom – the father of my daughter – for seven months because of the glorious state of South Carolina failing me, (again the ‘alleged victim’), I still thought Brad knew better.  It was obvious that I was madly in love with him – even after seven months of no communication, I still desired nothing and no one but Brad.  And that obviously Brad – who spoke to me our entire courtship about how he wanted nothing more in life than to be a father – wouldn’t be clueless to the fact he was obviously the father.

I was that naïve woman that thought people could be trusted.

In April, after many failed attempts the “no contact” order was lifted (because I , ‘the victim’ had to hire a lawyer, thank you James Snell). Oh sweet relief -Brad and I could finally talk.  And talk we did.  And meet up we did.  And a short month later, our daughter was born.  Brad, who drove all night from South Carolina to Maryland so that he could be present at the birth – obviously because it was his daughter (or so I thought).

It wasn’t until the day after she was born, when I was sitting in the hospital bed, recovering from a c-section, filling out the birth certificate paperwork when I was shocked with the news that Brad refused to be on the birth certificate.  I didn’t get it.  We had been talking about it for a month – he knew it was his – he was eager for her to even have his last name.  But he still refused.

A few days later, (because Brad stayed with me and ‘our daughter’ for 2.5 weeks after her birth) we had a paternity test done.  Livid, embarrassed and ashamed, I sat in the Lab Corp office watching my daughter be swabbed, filling out paperwork, etc – all to prove that yes, Brad was in fact her father.

I didn’t understand it.  Since the “no contact” order was lifted, Brad and I had talked about how ‘excited’ we were.  How we were finally going to have our “Emily” that we so often talked and dreamed about during our courtship.

But then I was informed of Richard’s influence (and I should have known better, despite Brad being nearly a 40-year-old man). Richard – who was convinced this child was Will’s, who had been convinced initially that I wasn’t even pregnant.  Richard – who has constantly tried to tear me down, to my face and behind closed doors.  Richard Eckstrom, the man who claims to be a ‘God fearing Christian’ – and yet has done nothing but attempt to hurt me.

There is a book that could be written about how truly, truly, evil Richard Eckstrom is.  There could be several editions, actually – from all the different people Richard has hurt in his life.  I wish I could even begin to get into a tenth of it – so that the world can know just how much this man has truly attempted to hurt and destroy not just my life, not just my ex-husband’s life, but my sweet and innocent daughter’s life.

Richard Eckstrom – who took the man I loved more than anything, and despite everything wanted nothing more than to live ‘happily ever after with’ – and helped turn him into his protégé.

I apologize for the length of this letter– there’s simply so much that I want to say, with a brain that is scattered trying to think of all the pain and suffering I’ve had to endure because of these people, because of my experience with the state of South Carolina. And I’m not even beginning to inch in on any of it.

But rather than go down that route, I’ll end this letter with this: My daughter and I are stronger than anyone could have ever imagined.  And while she may not have an earthly ‘father,’ I remind anyone who may read this, again, that she in fact is a child of our Heavenly Father – and that is far more amazing than any earthly father she could have potentially had.

Oh, and for those who cared to know – I’m including the paternity results (.pdf here) so that the truth is known and that I’m not the jezebel that Richard Eckstrom has tried to portray me as.

Sincerely,

Blair Pettrey
Frederick, Maryland

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64 comments

9" August 3, 2015 at 11:15 am Reply
ELCID August 3, 2015 at 11:17 am

YIKES!!

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The Colonel August 3, 2015 at 11:19 am

“Bradley” does sort of look like Will – if Will had hair, lost 30 pounds and didn’t bathe for a couple of days…

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Manray9 August 3, 2015 at 11:21 am

My old grandma in Georgia used to say smart people didn’t air their dirty laundry in public.

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flip August 3, 2015 at 11:48 am

OH MY!!! I agree TMI. Is Blair SYNTwist? :)

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TMI August 3, 2015 at 11:29 am

Uh…keep it on your Facebook next time guys. Gotta love the maturity of those involved with ‘conservative’ politics. Bunch of teenage acting fools.

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The Colonel August 3, 2015 at 11:47 am

Think of all the entertainment value we got out of this.

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Anne August 3, 2015 at 12:55 pm

One man’s/woman’s “entertainment” is anothers tragedy! Ask the children of these adulterers how entertaining is has been for them!?
Peeler”s/Donna’s, Sanford’s/Chaupur’s, Eckstrom’s/payne’s! You will find human tragedy.

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MoralMidgets August 3, 2015 at 1:40 pm

Conservative politics thrive on human tragedy. Nothing new there.

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The Colonel August 3, 2015 at 1:44 pm

Remind me who it was that said: “…You never let a serious crisis go to waste. And what I mean by that it’s an opportunity to do things you think you could not do before…”

Richard Stands August 3, 2015 at 7:23 pm

I believe that was Flounder in “Animal House “

The Colonel August 3, 2015 at 1:50 pm

The situation is despicable – the “letter to the editor” solution is hilarious. We’ve known that Eckstorm is a whore, she obviously knew his son was weak, whipped and a wuss so I am having a hard time finding any sympathy for her. I saw a quote yesterday that seems to fit here very well: “Everything happens for a reason, sometimes the reason is you’re stupid and make
bad decisions…”

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Milk without the cow August 3, 2015 at 11:35 am

Moral of the story:

Don’t get pregnant out of wedlock. (and the Ickstrom family is filled with losers, but we all already knew that)

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Bible Thumper August 3, 2015 at 12:30 pm

Mama told me, “it takes two”.

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Milk without the cow August 3, 2015 at 12:57 pm

Is that because you’re a bastard?

:)

Seriously though, the mother seems to have more responsibility in caring for the child after such a mistake than the father most of the time.

Yes, the father usually is ground into the system and pays out the nose, but when the father is a loser that doesn’t car about the kid he produced he’s simply writing a check and “done”.

The mother has 18 years(or more) of commitment way beyond the financial.

Religious people always champion the issue of “sin” and sex out of wedlock, but beyond that there’s some very rational/common sense reasons beyond the fear of Hell to not risk pregnancy/sex out of wedlock beyond religious reasons.

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Bible Thumper August 3, 2015 at 1:07 pm

The guy in this case is 40 years old. I’m not letting him off the hook one bit.

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Milk without the cow August 3, 2015 at 1:14 pm

Roger. Neither am I, I’m just noting that the women ultimately has the final say(assuming it’s not rape) in such matters and her decision usually a disproportionate effect on her life versus the loser.

It only makes sense August 3, 2015 at 8:32 pm

She could put it up for adoption. Isn’t that what all the folks who dislike both abortion and social programs to support the poor say?

24/7 agenda & spin August 3, 2015 at 9:35 pm

Is that what you’re for, adoption? Or are you in the abortion camp?

Rocky August 4, 2015 at 11:07 am

I say we skewer his ass, with the hook. In fact, let’s not skewer the ass, let’s use another part for the hook. Based on his actions, we probably don’t need a big hook.

Scooter August 3, 2015 at 8:45 pm

Show a little shame. Don’t brag about it.

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Family Values Politics August 3, 2015 at 11:41 am

If a politician runs on family values, people should vote against that politician.

It is clear politicians do not make good role models when it comes to the family.

Politicians don’t make good role models for anything.

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Arlie August 3, 2015 at 12:50 pm

Eckstrom is a sleazy, slimy slug just like his other Republican adulterers Bob Peeler, Mark Sanford. They are ALL an embarrassment to themselves and the party. The problem is they are so self consumed, self serving and shameless narcissist, just like those sluts they had affairs with, the cannot accept any wrong doing and have to set out to destroy their Exs. In psychological terms it is called TRANSFERENCE. It is a personality disorder/character flaw which runs with the Narcissist disorder. They are so self loving, nothing, or no one else matters. It is, after all, all about them.
The women appear to be Political Groupies, much akin to the Groupies who follow Rock Bands. The difference, most Rock and Groupies are in only for the sexual experience of getting laid by Rock Stars. The Political Groupies like the ones with Eckstrom, Peeler and Sanford are seduced by the Political Lime Light, and are willing to sacrifice their families, children and anyone, or anything they feel could prevent their goal, selfish, sick satisfaction for themselves.
We’ve had many examples in SC recently.
All follow the same pattern, tactics, and sick, nefarious destruction of all they feel threaten their goal.

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true Republican upstate August 3, 2015 at 1:14 pm

These people are a cancer in the moral of the Party and need to be permanently extricated!

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Typical August 3, 2015 at 1:43 pm

They represent the average republican. Morally confused and not too bright.

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the dem pig pen starring Barry August 3, 2015 at 1:50 pm

Democrats don’t have that problem…they have NO morals and as far as ‘bright’…electing a radical Muslim sympathizer that hates America as pResident, doesn’t appear to be very ‘bright’ to me?

??? August 3, 2015 at 3:57 pm

Because you are a racist. Country is doing way better now, than 8 years ago. No doubt about that.

justthefacts August 10, 2015 at 9:21 pm

wow, your ignorance is astounding. here’s hoping natural selection takes care of you before you reproduce.

Conservative "values" August 3, 2015 at 4:00 pm

Yes but remember they have

Conservative “values.”

Soft Sigh from Hell August 3, 2015 at 6:35 pm

Morally degenerate and dumb, some might say.

mamatiger Anderson SC August 3, 2015 at 1:34 pm

All of the three mentioned above ran a Faith (False) based “family values ” campaign.
PEELER
SANFORD
ECKSTROM

ALL!!!

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Sic Semper Tyrannis August 3, 2015 at 11:51 am

Looks like Nikki is looking at a teleprompter, that reads “Keep your mouth shut”.

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shifty henry August 3, 2015 at 7:45 pm

“teleprompter” — yes, she does…

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dwb619 August 3, 2015 at 9:51 pm

Just LOOK at those BIG TEEF!
Back stroke and hoo-rah ridge heaven!
YOU BETCHA!
I can see Bamberg from my trailer!

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TontoBubbaGoldstein August 3, 2015 at 11:58 am

Tags:
Baby mamma drama.

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Conservative "values" August 3, 2015 at 4:02 pm

Eckstrom voter above.

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erneba August 3, 2015 at 12:19 pm

If Eckstrom had not been overdosing on Viagra and kept his pecker in his drawers, he he would have been in this situation.
My heart bleeds for no one in this soap opera, except the baby.

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Bible Thumper August 3, 2015 at 12:33 pm

If Folks sues Eckstrom, he’ll have to prove his reputation has been damaged…. Hmmm…

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Speak D Truth August 3, 2015 at 12:52 pm

Is there video of the conception? Seriously, That’s the problem with the people that hide their misconduct behind a bible. Shame on the 40 year old son for forsaking his child and allowing his father to control him.

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The apple doesn't fall far... August 3, 2015 at 12:59 pm

Yep, he’s less than a man. A veritable Theon Greyjoy: A dickless whipped dog.

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jimlewisowb August 3, 2015 at 1:56 pm

Darlin, you have not done right by your child documenting the shallowness of the gene pool on her Daddy’s side of the family

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Tazmaniac August 3, 2015 at 4:46 pm

About deep as a mud puddle in that pool.

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mamatiger92 August 3, 2015 at 4:24 pm

I understand your frustration with inappropriate behavior of the father of your child & his family, but, for the sake of your child, PLEASE don’t air your dirty laundry in public. What is wrong with you?

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Tazmaniac August 3, 2015 at 4:31 pm

Have you Googled her name? Comes across as a little out there.

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GOB August 3, 2015 at 4:39 pm

Brad, Be a man and accept responsibility for your daughter!

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Quietus August 3, 2015 at 5:13 pm

Southern Charm, Season 4 the State House edition. We go to Columbia to get the down and dirty on the down and dirty of South Carolina politics, intrigue, money and mostly sex. Old ugly politicians having sex. Special guests for season 4 Jakie Knotts and Jimmy Metts.

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Soft Sigh from Hell August 3, 2015 at 7:20 pm

Poor sweet little unsuspecting kid. Good luck in life.

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shifty henry August 3, 2015 at 7:43 pm

Gee, and I’ve been anticipating this drama about Will for weeks, and it has just sort of petered out now …..

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Tiger2 August 3, 2015 at 7:57 pm

Eckstorm has been sitting on the Budget and Control Board for decades and what has he done? Nothing. All he does is piss and moan, back up whoever is the most powerful person—used to be Sanford, now is Leatherman—and get nothing positivecaccomplished.

All the while the state has plummeted in every way. Well, Mr. Eckstrom, you sux.

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shifty henry August 3, 2015 at 7:59 pm

“I suppose it’s because of my half sleeve of tattoos” — that turned me off right there. But then again, I’m not for tattoos since my fiasco.

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E Norma Scok August 3, 2015 at 8:31 pm

If anyone wants a good laugh, just google “Blair Pettrey”.

Remember the girl in high school who was drama laden, and could never get away from it?

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shifty henry August 3, 2015 at 11:17 pm

Is her name pronounced like… a Petri dish? Sort of seems relevant, doesn’t it?

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Blair Pettrey August 9, 2015 at 8:54 pm

Unfortunately it’s not. But that would be perfect if it was.

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shifty henry August 9, 2015 at 9:12 pm

— thank you

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Krazy Kat August 3, 2015 at 8:36 pm

Damn. Just damn. Train wreck.

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Krazy Kat August 3, 2015 at 8:41 pm

Beautiful pictures of the happy family. Something your child will cherish in the years to come.

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shifty henry August 3, 2015 at 11:14 pm

A boy, on his 12th birthday, asks his mother,
“Mother, I’ve grown up without a father, and you promised me that on my 12th birthday you would
tell me who my real father is.”

His mother says, “Yes, my son, it happened this way. In a certain state where I was living, there is a certain town. In that certain townis a certain saloon. In that certain saloon I met a certain man.”

Excitedly the boy says, “Oh yes, yes! And he’s my father?”

His mother replies, “Actually, I’m not certain!”

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Krazy Kat August 3, 2015 at 8:49 pm

These “people” breed like rabbits. Why can’t we have forced sterilization?

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shifty henry August 3, 2015 at 11:11 pm

I’ve never seen one of those documents before — It’s scary looking!. Is Dr. Karl any relation to Mr. Karl of Fitsnews? Also, “DAMN!” — didn’t we see Bradley Eckstrom in “DELIVERANCE”?

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Town Crier August 4, 2015 at 1:16 am

What is her point? And why is this news-worthy? Welcome to the real world chickadee. It’s mean. Life sucks sometimes. LET. IT. GO. You’ve got a daughter to raise. And like it or not, those assholes are your daughter’s kin. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and focus on a more positive future for yourself and your daughter.

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Jim August 4, 2015 at 6:56 am

I bet, in real life, you are one whiney bitch.

Posting on blogs always makes one much much stronger than in their real life.

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Rocky August 4, 2015 at 11:05 am

Sweetheart, let me give you some advise. And you should take this to heart. First, enjoy your daughter and the precious moments you two will share over the years. Second, with paternity confirmed, get some really good lawyers. I mean, head down to Charleston where you can find some real cut through MOFOs with balls and sue the living shit out of them. Do it very publicly. Make it a huge splash. Ask for a huge sum of money in damages. Let’s see, it costs about $20,000 a year to raise a child for 20 years, so that’s $400,000, and another $150,000 for education, and another $100,000 for misc items. Then bump it up to cover the lawyers cut, so say about $1.2 million. Actually, ask for a cool $1.7 million. I can I say with certainty, they will be scrambling all over SC to come up with the $1.2 million to pay you off. And, then, move to San Diego, where the weather is great, the people are really nice, and where your daughter’s father has to go back to his father every freaking four months and ask for the $600 in airfare to fly out there and see his daughter.

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ted August 4, 2015 at 3:46 pm

Will, I hope you sue for slander.

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