Think it’s a sign of the times that folks would even consider something like this “the norm”.

All these people on talk shows, radio and TV, act like they’re shocked. Get over it.

It’s not just a matter of him wanting two women who are opposites of each other either (ie: a prude & a slut) Because actually, we’re very similar to each other in more ways than what we do sexually. She & I are probably more alike than I am to my own sisters.

I am the first to admit that our situation is probably not “normal” by any means but I think that it completely defies many of the pre-conceived notions people have about why men have mistresses.

“having an unfaithful husband is absolutely tragic”

“Right now Elin Nordegren, Tiger Woods’ wife, is the star in that narrative”

And I refuse to believe that you are ignorant enough to actually believe that men are shallow enough to have affairs because of their wife’s lack of blow jobs. I think that is right up there with the top 5 dumbest things I have ever heard in my life. In my opinion, you are a disgrace to women all over the world.

To some other posters: (This is only my opinion) I don’t believe men have affairs because other women are prettier. My husband had an affair about 5 yrs. ago and he had always told me that he considered himself lucky to have even went out on a date w/ me, let alone marry him. I’m not meaning to sound/be arrogant here but I needed to set the stage for what happened in my own situation. From my early 20′s to early 30′s, I was told many times that I looked like Julia Roberts and one (crazy) person even said Hillary Swank about 4 yrs ago. When my husband cheated, I had become “depressed-like” over the death of my mother, sudden and tragic death of my sister, AND my father married again one month after my mother’s death (sleez). I started to lash out at my husband and wasn’t very nice to him; I treated him like a stranger at times as well. He cheated with with an easy woman, who the men have called “dog pound” for as long as I can remember BUT she paid attention to him and treated him like he was a king, unlike me, his own wife. We were still having sex when he started the affair, BJ’s and all. It wasn’t about sex, looks, or blowjobs. It was about needing to feel loved, appreciated and needed. I learned a very valuable lesson from that affair…looks mean nothing when you treat someone badly. I was the ugliest person in the world because of my attitude towards him and others.

It took years of counseling for both of us; him for his guilt and shame to the point of being suicidal. I was devastated that the man I trusted more than anyone could do something so cruel. I have never hurt like that and I truely thought I was going to die from a broken heart or a heart attack for the first couple months because my chest would hurt so bad from the emotional pain. It is still in the back of my mind, I have forgiven him but I can never forget it…not because I don’t want to but because I can’t. I wish I could wipe all those horrid memories from my brain but they will be there forever. Our then-14 year old daughter suffered, as well. He was the last person anyone would expect because he was so loving, caring, and attentive. My daughter now has trust issues with the boys/young men she has dated. After all, if the man that no one would suspect of cheating could do this, then any one can in her mind.

Nope…when it comes to affairs, looks, blow jobs, sex, none of that matters if you emotionally neglect your spouse.

I apologize for the legnth but I feel like I must stand up for what I believe and know to be true. It is why I am so shocked as the article as it talks about affairs like they could be the best thing to ever happen to someone. They aren’t…they are the cruelest thing one human can do to another. Again, all this is my opinion…no bashing because I, too, am entitled to it.