Two intense discussions have been percolating in the FITS newsroom over the last week, with the main debate revolving around whether or not it is worse for a participant in a monogamous relationship (editor’s note: balls in a jar) to have a physical or an emotional affair.
And yeah … you should have seen our notoriously infantile founding editor’s face at the mere mention of the term “emotional affair.”
“Is that something gay guys do?” he asked.
Anyway, let’s assume we all know what a physical affair is (to women, it’s just kissing – to guys, it’s penetration) … and let’s assume that the definition of “emotional affair” referenced below is accurate.
From Divorce Support:
An emotional affair is defined as any infidelity that occurs through feeling or thought. With the technological development of cell phones and the internet, the definition of cheating has been expanded to include the traditional definition, plus the feelings and/or thoughts that comprise emotional infidelity. Cheating now includes having intimate correspondence with someone while on a cell phone, meeting someone over the Internet and maintaining a close, personal relationship with someone other than your spouse.
Now … here’s the question … which is worse?
Virtually every woman we’ve spoken with answered immediately and unequivocally that an “emotional affair” was much worse.
“I can forgive him if he just stumbled once physically with another woman,” said one woman we spoke with. “I can’t forgive him thinking he’s found his soul mate.”
Hmmm … obviously S.C. First Lady Jenny Sanford agrees.
“You can only be emotionally attached to one person at a time,” another woman we spoke with said.
As for the guys we talked with, scarcely half of them even understood what an “emotional affair” was.
This discussion actually evolved Monday night as our founding editor and his wife engaged in a heated discussion following an episode of the CBS comedy, the Big Bang Theory.
In the show, a female protagonist invites her guitarist ex-boyfriend (something Sic knows a little bit about) to sleep on her couch – without asking her current boyfriend whether or not it was alright.
Foul! Right?
Wrong … well, for girls at least.
According to the women we spoke with, there’s a double standard here. It’s okay for girls, not okay for guys.
Their logic? It would be “harder for men to say no” if a girl staying with a guy decided to come onto him, whereas women have experience saying no to guys every day.
Hmmmm …
The arguments are out there … now it’s time for you to vote. Also, be sure to leave your thoughts about the “sofa situation” in the comments section below!
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By Todd November 12, 2009 at 10:14 am
An attorney friend who only does domestic work has told me 1,000 times that he hears every week from guys when caught with another woman, “It was just sex, for God’s sake. It’s not like I was paying her car payment or talking about her feelings or anything like that. We just did it!”
By Designated Driver November 12, 2009 at 10:14 am
All I wanted was a blowjob
By Jonny D November 12, 2009 at 11:09 am
The answer is easy, but you need to be a man to get it.
Never mind women, ask a married man (or a man in a serious monogamous relationship) what is worse, his wife being “emotionally connected” to another guy, or another guy fucking her hard in every hole, and then jizzing on her face. The answer is obviously that having your wife fucked hard by another guy is much worse. Next question.
By MKinVA November 12, 2009 at 1:06 pm
As a married woman, I always have to laugh at this question. Let me see, which is worse, being married to Sanford who believes he is such a deep and emotional thinker that it takes him 8 years to get it up? Or being married to Coach Pitino who, at the drop of a cocktail napkin, would stick it in anything wet?
By HMMM November 12, 2009 at 1:27 pm
Good grief, did you just publish that?
By Stupid Question November 12, 2009 at 3:34 pm
MK, you’re making me horny. Keep it up.
By BIN News Editorial Staff November 12, 2009 at 5:24 pm
Our Funding Editor wants to know if Kelly Payne is going to have her “It Kids” check out this post and respond to sic(k) willie’s poll. After all, her class is on the cutting edge of politics. sic(k) willie said so.
How about it sic(k) willie? Kelly?
The public library, public universities and all public schools should block sic(k) willie, but not because he is a political pimp.
Everyone knows cheap political pimps.
But, because of his porn. Look at the posts by Stupid Question and Designated Driver. What perverts!
What about it out there you “ultra conservative base”?
Should sic(k) willie’s porn go into our public schools?
Should kids read that “Stupid Question” says she’s “horny”?
And “Designated Driver” says she wants a “blow job.”
Kelly, keep sharing this political pimp at school. Invite him back into your classroom. Our Funding Editor wants to be there!
By SnakeMD November 12, 2009 at 6:01 pm
To MKinVA, since I’m a Shakespearean scholar I would like to quote from King Henry VI, concerning your “wet” remarks.
Graze on my lips, and if these hills be dry,
Stray lower, where the pleasant fountains lie…”
Will wrote this of course before there was Chapstick or even Astroglide ;-)
By Ynot November 12, 2009 at 8:14 pm
They are truly equally as bad to the jilted.
By Designated Driver November 12, 2009 at 10:54 pm
Bin, quit yakking and put your mouth back on my knob. Worry about my Willie and not Sick Willie
By BIN News November 13, 2009 at 12:27 am
designated driver is such a pervert.
By southernmapart November 13, 2009 at 9:13 am
Emotional affairs don’t leave STD tracks.
By Stupid Question November 13, 2009 at 4:34 pm
BIN, what about me? Don’t I get any recognition for my efforts?
By SnakeMD November 14, 2009 at 6:33 pm
Jonny D. I think you summed up! But, my wife left me for another woman. I asked her to come back and she said only if she could bring her life partner. How could I possibly respect that? I think it is against the law to live with two women. Utah?